WHEN IS IT TIME TO LEAVE
KEEPING THE CHURCH ON SIDE
by Rob Lamont 1987, Updated in 2009
KEEPING THE CHURCH ON SIDE
CAUSE OF PROBLEMS
1. DIFFERENCE IN PHILOSOPHY
C. Work load
2. DIFFERENCE IN EXPECTATION BY THE MINISTER.
a. Getting a youth worker because there are no assistant ministers available.
b. Getting a youth worker to hold under the thumb.
c. Getting a youth worker because you do not relate well to youth.
d. Getting a youth worker because the church will then double.
e. Cannot afford staff and youth workers are cheap.
f. Getting a youth worker to convert children of minister/key church people.
g. Expected to only work with "nice" youth.
h. A new minister comes after the youth worker is appointed.
i. The church hopes the money will come from all the new converts that will come.
BEFORE YOU GO FOR A JOB
a. Consider your skills, gifts and abilities plus your limitations to work out what you can do.
b. Consider what socio economic and geographical area you want to or can work in.
c. Consider what type of philosophy of ministry would suit you.
d. What are your long term aims and goals and will youth work help you achieve them.
e. What time and type of commitment will you give.
BEFORE THE CHURCH TAKES YOU ON
a. Get a written job description and tenure of employment.
b. Find out from past staff workers about the church and other staff.
c. Give the church clear guidelines of your limitations and abilities.
d. Clarify who is your boss eg Minister, eldership or a committee.
a. Do not promise the earth.
b. Be flexible.
c. Be willing to explain to people the meaning of your work.
d. Don't change anything to suit you unless you think it is of genuine value.
e. Be aware of past work and ministry.
f. Meet with key people in the church to let them tell you about the church
g. Invite the key youth and youth leaders around to your place for a meal.
h. Work out concrete goals.
i. Find out the Minister's vision of ministry and work with it.
j. Inform the minister of any major decision or pastoral responsibility.
k. Give the church regular updates on the youth work.
a. Be willing to occasionally speak at non youth events eg women's groups, Sunday school etc.
b. Keep the church informed of your ministry.
c. Go to the non youth based services regularly.
d. Built up relationships in the church with the adults.
e. Put regular items in the church bulletin about the youth program.
f. Be willing to educate the adults about youth.
g. Be careful of counselling the opposite sex.
h. Have integrity and be reliable
i. Support the other members of the ministry team
j. Meet regularly with the minister (preferably weekly)
k. Plan the direction you are to take together.
l. Be willing to ring up other youth workers for advice.
m. Take regular holidays.
n Seek and maintain friendships outside of church.
o. Find someone who you can share confidentially with about your ministry.
KNOWING WHEN TO LEAVE
a. Plan when you hope to leave and why then.
b. Don't wait to burn out or burn up.
c. Give notice of when you intend leaving.
KNOWING WHEN NOT TO LEAVE.
a. When you are tired.
b. When the weather affects you eg If you hate winter it is not a good time to make up your mind.
c. When the groups have stopped growing or are going backwards in numbers.
d. When you are bored.
e. When things get hard.